Author Archives: Hecate Demeter

In Between Lughnasadh and Mabon Potpourri


(See how that lovely path divides the two Sabbats?  I think that’s where we are now.)

The Greenman recently sent me this great post  about being in relationship with place, a subject much on my mind as I settle in here, in my new place.  Here’s a taste:

But now I’ve realized that home isn’t really about the physical place: it’s about my relationship to the place where I happen to find myself.


Home is somewhere that I make. It’s somewhere that I choose. Years ago, Dan Pearson gave a Sunday Sermon at the School of Life where he talked about commitment – how gardening, any act of landscape-making, is a practice of commitment to a place. To garden is to invest time and attention into a place. Whether it’s cutting back invading ivy or coaxing out the delicate twining tendrils of a jasmine vine, gardening is an act of commitment to place – devotion of time, attention, and effort. You make home, one humble act at a time.

Lots of people whose opinions I respect keep bringing up  the need to ensure local food resources.  We can’t all grow all of our own food (and, regardless,  I’m going to need us to keep importing coffee because, well, coffee), but we can all do something.  We can grow what we can, buy as much as we can from local farmers and producers, and support community gardening and the kind of sensible planning that ensures farms within a short distance from cities and suburbs.

Chas Clifton makes me want to go mushroom hunting.

I can completely relate to how silence overtakes us in summer, surrounded by flowers.  The wildflowers up here have been amazing this year, in the true sense of making one mazed, enchanted, speechless with wonder and joy.  Queen Anne’s Lace, chickory, teazles, grasses, daisies, black-eyed-susans, pussy willows . . . .  Soon (and it will be quite soon if this drought continues) the leaves will begin to change color and I am looking forward to experiencing the famed Autumn colors of the Shenandoah Valley.

Quite some time before I ever thought that I’d actually move up here, I’d occasionally get up into the mountains — sometimes to see the precious American chestnut saplings at the Virginia Arboretum, and sometimes to see art at the Museum of the Shenandoah Valley, and sometimes just to drive up with a friend — and, driving home and watching cloud shadows shift over the mountains, I would think, “Wouldn’t it be lovely to have a little cabin up here and to be able to come, sit for a while, and compose my soul before I die?”  And then I’d think how crazy it would make me to have two homes, and how crazy it would make Merlin and Nimue for me to move between two homes, and how I already needed more time than I had to maintain my garden and . . . .

Now, finding myself up here, I do keep stopping, staring at the mountains, and composing myself (I’m in good health; no need for worries!  It’s just that I’m a Witch and we Witches aren’t afraid of the dark.  I’m 63, my Son is raised, my G/Son is halfway to adulthood, I’m retired, and one of my final big jobs is getting ready to, hopefully, some time in the mid-distance future,  eff the ineffable.  I’m the traditional good girl, the one who always showed up early, learned all the lessons, prayed the whole rosary, made extra credit mint jelly in HomeEc, aced the tests — Law Review!, Moot Court!, Third in Her Class!, White Shoe Law! Appellate Wins!  Souter on her SCOTUS Certificate! — cleaned her room, trained her replacement, and got ready for the next task.  I bet I can ace this one, as well).

Terri Windling’s blog is one of the best sources of succor in these terrible times and recently she’s been writing  about silence, and old places, and preparing for death.  Here’s a snippet:

“Our culture is so fearful of the silence of death,” writes Parker, “that it worships noise nonstop. In the midst of all that noise, small silences can help us become more comfortable with the Great Silence toward which we are all headed. Small silences bring us ‘little deaths,’ which, to our surprise, turn out to be deeply fulfilling. For example, as we settle into silence, where our posturing and pushing must cease, we may experience a temporary death of the ego, of that separate sense of self we spend so much time cultivating. But this ‘little death,’ instead of frightening us, makes us feel more at peace and more at home.

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“The Rule of St. Benedict, that ancient guide to the monastic life, includes the admonition to ‘keep death before one’s eyes daily.’ As a young man I found this advice a bit morbid. But the older I get, the more I understand how life-giving this practice can be. As I settle into silence, I draw closer to my own soul, touching a place within me that knows no fear of dying. And the little deaths I experience in silence deepen my appreciation for life — for the light suffusing the room as I write, for the breeze coming in through the window.

“So silence brings not only little deaths but also little births — small awakenings to beauty, to vitality, to hope, to life. In silence we may start to intuit that birth and death have much in common. We came from the Great Silence without fear into this world of noise. Perhaps we can return without fear as well, crossing back over knowing that the Great Silence is our first and final home.”

I follow a Twitter account that simply tweets, once a day, “Someday, you will die.”  It’s really a liberating reminder.  It makes me think of Carlos Castenda insisting that we must pay attention to Death, just over our left shoulder.  In any important decision, we can turn and ask Death what he thinks.

Death is such a good friend to humanity.

And, of course, that brings me, as so many things often do, to Mary Oliver:

When death comes
like the hungry bear in autumn;
when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse
to buy me, and snaps the purse shut;
when death comes
like the measle-pox
when death comes
like an iceberg between the shoulder blades,
I want to step through the door full of curiosity, wondering:
what is it going to be like, that cottage of darkness?
And therefore I look upon everything
as a brotherhood and a sisterhood,
and I look upon time as no more than an idea,
and I consider eternity as another possibility,
and I think of each life as a flower, as common
as a field daisy, and as singular,
and each name a comfortable music in the mouth,
tending, as all music does, toward silence,
and each body a lion of courage, and something
precious to the earth.
When it’s over, I want to say all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it’s over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world

Like Ms. Oliver, I want to say, and honestly I think that I can, that I was a bride, married to amazement.  And so as to Mr Merlin.   And so as to Mr. Whyte.

And, so, when I stop on the way home from a local Dem meeting and lose myself in sunlit clouds over the mountains, or when I go the the lake and watch the dragonflies perform the great rite, or when I stand under the full Moon and hear the frogs intone the great incantation, well, I believe that I am, indeed, composing my soul.

May it be so for you.

Photo from the meadows of the Virginia Arboretum by the blogger. If you copy, please link back.




Words for Wednesday


Commercial Break

~ Jacqueline Woodson

Last night this commercial came on TV. It was this white lady making a nice dinner for her husband. She made him some baked chicken with potatoes and gravy and some kind of greens—not collards, but they still looked real good. Everything looked so delicious, I just wanted to reach into that television and snatch a plate for myself.
He gave her a kiss and then a voice came on saying He’ll love you for it and then the commercial went off.

I sat on Miss Edna’s scratchy couch wondering if that man and woman really ate that food or just threw it all away.

Now Ms. Marcus wants to know why I wrote that the lady is white and I say because it’s true. And Ms. Marcus says Lonnie, what does race have to do with it, forgetting that she asked us to use lots of details when we wrote. Forgetting that whole long talk she gave yesterday about the importance of description! I don’t say anything back to her, just look down at my arm. It’s dark brown and there’s a scab by my wrist that I don’t pick at if I remember not to. I look at my knuckles. They’re real dark too.

Outside it’s starting to rain and the way the rain comes downtap, tapping against the window—gets me to thinking. Ms. Marcus don’t understand some things even though she’s my favorite teacher in the world. Things like my brown, brown arm. And the white lady and man with all that good food to throw away. How if you turn on your TV, that’s what you see—people with lots and lots of stuff not having to sit on scratchy couches in Miss Edna’s house. And the true fact is alotta those people are white. Maybe it’s that if you’re white you can’t see all the whiteness around you.

Picture found here.

But Why Do You Have to Call Yourself a Witch?

(Belated) Monday at the Movies

Something to consider for those who say it’s wrong to do political magic.

The Magical Battle for America 8.11.19


We’ve been doing this working for some time now.  Sometimes, adding a new tool or other object can help bring a fresh energy to our work.  Maybe you can add a candle that you light specifically for this work.  (You can buy plain glass candles and print out a picture to tape or glue to the outside.  Maybe the Statue of Liberty or Salmon?)  Cedar or sage incense can help you to get in touch with the Cowboy.  Water in a bowl full of rocks can remind you of the swamps that survivors travelled on the Underground Railroad.  A plain pottery cup or woven shawl can remind you of the simple life at Walden Pond.  Do what you can to charge up the energy — we’re entering a difficult and uncertain phase of this battle.

Now’s probably a good time to remind everyone to check/refresh the wards on your home or wherever you do this work.  (No, really.  You really need to do this.)  Be sure that you’re rested, grounded, and in a comfortable position.  Maybe wrap up in a blanket or cloak and grasp an herb, stone, or talisman that matters to you.  Grow your roots, send them deep into the soil, let them intertwine and grow small hairs to attach to the mycelia in your own landbase.


Anchor yourself firmly to your landbase.  Does your landbase have anything to tell you today?  Notice a small detail that will call you back when this working is finished.

Ground and center.  Cast a circle.


As you move to our American plain on the astral plane, you can see again the safe hillock where you do your work.  You can see the five giant banners, shining in the sky: Walden Pond, the Underground Railroad, the Cowboy, the Salmon, and Lady Liberty.  Do they seem more defined since we began our work? Do they have anything special to tell you this week?

For a few moments, just sit on your hillock and allow yourself to become comfortable.  This place should be feeling very real to you by now; we’ve been working together to create it for months and months.  What’s become familiar to you?  A tuft of prairie grass?  Buffalo off in the distance?  The scent of sand carried on the wind?  You’ve been involved in a months-long magical working here, joined with magic workers from across the globe.  Feel your connection to this place on the astral plane. It is always here for you, always a source of strength.

Just now, there are so many attacks on decency and justice that it can be difficult to know where we should focus our energy.  At times like this, the best course of action can be to go back to basics.  Thoreau went to Walden Pond in order to strip things down, to get back to a life that felt livable.  As you look to the East, you see the Walden Pond banner growing larger and larger in the sky.  The banner fills the entire sky and becomes three-dimensional.  You can step into the banner and stand on the shore, just outside of Thoreau’s simple cabin.

As you breathe in the silence and peace, you realize that, for America to get back to the basics, we must protect our elections.  Hackable electronic voting machines aren’t necessary.  There’s no reason why the vote totals must be known immediately and this is especially true when we are sacrificing accuracy for immediacy.

Bend down and pick up a stone from the shore of the pond.  Hold tight to it and visualize your stone, along with so many others, building a wall against those — from this country and elsewhere — who want to hack our votes.  The stone is real, concrete, something that everyone can touch and see.  So are paper ballots.  As we approach election season (and there are important state elections THIS November), focus your energy into the stone and see America returning to the basics of election protection.

When you feel that you have charged the stone, throw it as hard and as far as you can into Walden Pond.  Watch it make ripples across the entire pond, ripples that reach from one shore to the other.  The ripples change the pond and the energy of the stone spreads far and wide.

You may want to sit and watch until the stone has done its work, until all of the ripples have died down and the pond is again serene.

Slowly, come down from your hillock and begin to walk back to your own landbase.

Open your eyes.  Rub your arms and face.  Notice the detail that you selected to call yourself back.  Drink something, maybe iced tea or a cup of coffee.  Have something to eat, maybe a piece of bread with peanut butter or a sliced apple.  Maybe you can set up a small altar dedicated to Walden Pond.  (If so, please post a picture!!)  You may want to repeat this working several times this week.  You may want to journal about it.  Are you inspired to make any art? If you’re willing, please share in comments what happened and how this working went.

Picture found here.


My World and Welcome to It

So it’s been about six weeks since I moved up here to the Blue Ridge.  I thought some of you might like an update.

With my Moon in Taurus, I don’t like big changes and I especially don’t like big changes to my living arrangements.  (And if you think that I don’t like change, let me introduce you to my two cats.  And, of course, there’s a feedback loop.  The more that I’m worried and upset about change, the more upset the cats get.  And the more upset the cats get . . . you see where this is going.)

Almost all of the big mistakes I’ve made in my life have had to do with staying too long — in relationships, jobs, living arrangements, etc.  So this time, when my Bit of Earth told me it was time to move, I listened.

Selling my beloved cottage and garden, buying a new home under construction (in a development under construction), managing the finances, going through everything I owned, packing things up — all of it made me pretty crazy (although, as the First Ex-Mr. Hecate used to say:  “Too late.”)  In the end, as it often does, it all worked out for the good.  Two dear friends came up, on the day the movers moved me in, and helped get the vast majority of “stuff,”  — dishes, pots, pans, wine glasses, spices, cat supplies, shoes, pictures, etc. — into place.  And then I spent about a month shelving books, organizing closets,  figuring out where everything was, rearranging the furniture.

And, now, here I am, beginning to find my way around, getting to know people and the local politics, taking the long way to the grocery store and stopping to chat with the local deer.  I’m so happy that I made this move.

Here, in random order, are some pictures of my new place.


Above is Nimue, about an hour after getting here from her several-day stay at the cat spa.  Although she looks worried in this picture, she’s adjusted pretty well to the move.

65311981_2654988894530916_5678501365848997888_nHere she is a few days later, offering to help me organize my desk.

66088767_2669825779713894_7472552223780634624_nHere are Merlin and Nimue with my new chandelier.  It’s a copy of the one in the Gamble House in California.  I’m still deciding whether I think it’s too bulky or not.

67376827_2709156745780797_2321344306394169344_n-1If you walk one block to the end of my street, the development dead-ends at a local farm.  Several of the cows like to cool off in the pond.

67403550_2703696149660190_7363760264086290432_nHere’s Merlin, resting in the afternoon sun.  He’s had a harder time adjusting to the move, but he’s going to get there.

67788304_2732892623407209_9193430810517045248_nThe nearest little town is White Post and you can see how it got its name.  The local legend is that, in a throwback to Pagan customs, George Washington buried a sixpence beneath the original post.

67796078_2732594626770342_1458203704082563072_nOn this morning’s walk, I saw Canada Geese feeding at the farm.  Autumn is coming.

67885847_2732879420075196_4199075549752066048_nThe local area is known for its orchards.  Yesterday, I drove past this lovely tree, weighed down with ripe apples.

67983660_2725457610817377_4262976416779337728_nEarlier this week, I took the long way to the grocery store.  Apparently, the deer don’t read the signs.

68457757_2732885690074569_6571762058411376640_nThis is the kind of amazing view that lifts my soul.  You’re looking at an old tree, a fertile corn field, fluffy white clouds, and those lovely blue mountains.

68479668_2732876496742155_4378063359715573760_nSpotted on my morning walk.  Wild datura growing in disturbed earth, I think.

68609851_2716262601736878_2975521035924799488_n-1I keep wanting to do a story about houses here from a gothic novel.

So that’s your tour of my Place.

I’d love to see or hear about yours.


We Resist Every Day


What have you been doing lately to resist?  It’s important to do something, no matter how small it may seem, to fight back against the Nazis.

You can go to Postcards4VA and help flip Virginia blue THIS YEAR.  Then we can pass the ERA.

You can demonstrate.  At an ICE facility, at your state capitol, at your representative’s local office.

And now, while legislators are home for the August recess, is a very good time to find out where they’ll be and go see them.  Tell them to pass gun safety laws, to impeach Trump, to protect the environment.

You can follow Byron Ballard’s advice and “pick three.”  Pick the three issues that matter most to you and work on them, knowing that others will pick other issues.

You can volunteer at your local school, library, clinic, or animal shelter.

You can plant a tree.

You can buy local food.

You can visualize the world you want and then do one thing each day to bring that world into being.

And, always, you can take care of yourself.  Sleep.  Hydrate.  Do your spiritual practice.  Go for a walk.  Have sex.

We need you.

Picture found here.